Physical intimacy

"Caress" redirects here. For other uses, see Caress (disambiguation).

Couple sharing physical intimacy

Physical intimacy is sensual proximity and/or touching.^[1] It can be enjoyed by itself and/or be an expression of feelings (such as close friendship, love, and/or sexual attraction) which people have for one another. Examples of physical intimacy include being inside someone's personal space, holding hands, hugging, kissing, caressing, and sexual activity.

The forms of physical intimacy include physical closeness, touching (especially tenderly), touching intimate parts (including outercourse), and sexual penetration.

It is possible to be physically intimate with someone without actually touching them; however, a certain proximity is necessary. For instance, a sustained eye contact is considered a form of physical intimacy, analogous to touching. When a person enters someone else's personal space for the purpose of being intimate, it is physical intimacy, regardless of the lack of actual physical contact.

Most people desire occasional physical intimacy, which is a natural part of human sexuality, and research has shown it has health benefits. A hug or touch can result in the release of oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin, and in a reduction in stress hormones.^{[citation needed]} A lack of physical intimacy can lead to increased feelings of loneliness.^{[citation needed]}

Personal space

"The Proposal" by William-Adolphe Bouguereau.

Most people value their personal space and feel discomfort, anger, or anxiety when their personal space is encroached.^[2] Entering somebody's personal space is normally an indication of familiarity and intimacy. However, in modern society, especially in crowded urban communities, it is at times difficult to maintain personal space, for example, in a crowded train, elevator or street. Many people find such physical proximity to be psychologically disturbing and uncomfortable,^[2] though it is accepted as a fact of modern life. In an impersonal crowded situation, eye contact tends to be avoided. Even in a crowded place, preserving personal space is important, and intimate and sexual contact, such as frotteurism and groping, are normally unacceptable physical contact.

On the other hand, most people occasionally desire physical proximity to others, and will at times welcome a familiar and trusted person into their personal space. When a partner or friend is not available at such a time, some people satisfy this need anonymously in a crowded venue, such as a bar, disco, pop concert, street festival, etc.

Display of affection

People who are on a familiar basis may like to enter into each other's personal space, such as to make a physical contact. These can be indicators of affection. The manner in which people display affection is generally different in a public context to a private one. Depending on the nature of the relationship between the people, a public display of affection is generally very constrained by social norms and can range from a gesture such as a kiss or hug in greeting, to an embrace or holding hands. Maintaining eye contact can be regarded socially and psychologically as analogous to touching.

In private, people in an intimate relationship or who are familiar with each other are more at ease with physical intimacy and display of affection, which can involve:

• Sitting on or lying against the other person or resting their head on the other's shoulder, lap, breast, chest, etc.
• Caressing (petting) or gently stroking body parts or hair with a hand
• Tickling
• Massaging someone's back, legs or feet or other part.
• Sexual intercourse
• Rubbing or patting someone's belly, mostly for babies
• Patting the buttocks or swatting the back or upper arm
• Tapping the legs

An interpersonal relationship that does not involve sexual activity, such as friendship, may involve display of affection. Friends may avoid physical intimacy to avoid emotions commonly associated with sexuality or emotional intimacy. The definition of "sexual" physical intimacy varies greatly.

Skinship

The term "skinship" (スキンシップ, sukinshippu^?) is a Japanese-English term (Wasei-eigo) ^[3][4][5] used to describe the intimacy, or closeness, between a mother and a child. Today, the word is generally used for bonding through physical contact, such as holding hands, hugging, or parents washing their child at a bath. The earliest citation of this word appears in Nihon Kokugo Daijiten in 1971.^[6]

According to Scott Clark, the word is a portmanteau derived from "skin", plus the last syllable of "friendship",^[7] though the apparent similarity with the English word 'kinship' raises the question whether this word was also originally coined as a play on words.^{[citation needed]} Use of the word "skinship" in English publications seems to focus on the notion of sharing a bath naked, an idea known in Japanese as "naked association" (裸の付き合い, hadaka no tsukiai^?). It is not clear why the meaning has shifted in being borrowed back into English.

This word was later spread to South Korea and pronounced as 스킨십 (skinship).

See also

• Emotional intimacy
• Public display of affection
• Sexual intimacy

References

1. ^ University of Florida
2. ^ ^{a b} Hall, Edward T. (1966). The Hidden Dimension. Anchor Books. ISBN 0-385-08476-5. 
3. ^ Ivry, Tsipy (2009). Embodying Culture: Pregnancy in Japan and Israel. Rutgers University Press. p. 162. ISBN 0813546362. http://books.google.com/books?id=jg5YLjBOVHEC&pg=PA162&dq=skinship#v=onepage&q=skinship&f=false. 
4. ^ Harkness, Sara; Super, Charles M. (1996). Parents' cultural belief systems: their origins, expressions, and consequences. Guilford Press. p. 186. ISBN 1572300310. http://books.google.com/books?id=yWfTqRKXqDcC&pg=PA186&dq=skinship#v=onepage&q=skinship&f=false. 
5. ^ Hijirida, Kyoko; Yoshikawa, Muneo (1987). Japanese language and culture for business and travel. University of Hawaii Press. p. 218. ISBN 0824810171. http://books.google.com/books?id=ORNzbaPIdVUC&pg=PA218&dq=skinship#v=onepage&q=skinship&f=false. 
6. ^ "Skinship". Word Spy. 2003-02-05. http://www.wordspy.com/words/skinship.asp. Retrieved 2007-07-03. 
7. ^ Clark, Scott. Japan, a View from the Bath. Honolulu: University of Hawaii Press, 1994, p. 73. ISBN 0-8248-1615-3, ISBN 0-8248-1657-9.

External links

• "American guys embrace the hug" - article at The Arizona Republic
• NPR: Poet on Call, By Andrei Codrescu commentary on hugs on NPR