Mary Livingstone

Not to be mistaken with the wife of David Livingstone

Mary Livingstone
Mary Livingstone circa 1940.
Birth name	Sadie Marks [1]
Born	June 23, 1905(1905-06-23) Seattle, Washington
Died	June 30, 1983(1983-06-30) (aged 78) Holmby Hills, Los Angeles, California
Show	The Jack Benny Program
Station(s)	NBC, CBS
Style	Actress/comedienne
Country	United States

Mary Livingstone (born Sadie Marks, June 23, 1905 ^[2]- June 30, 1983), was an American radio comedienne and the wife and radio partner of comedy great Jack Benny (né Benjamin Kubelsky). Enlisted almost entirely by accident to perform on her husband's popular program, she proved a talented comedienne. But she also proved one of the rare performers – Barbra Streisand would prove to be another – to experience severe stage fright years after her career was established — so much so that she retired from show business completely, after two decades in the public eye, almost three decades before her death, and at the height of her husband and partner's fame.

Early life

Born in Seattle, but raised in Vancouver, British Columbia, Livingstone's father was a Jewish immigrant from Romania.^[3] She came from a respected show business family: relatives included her cousins the Marx Brothers and Al Shean of Gallagher and Shean. Her last name Marrix was Anglicised to Marks when the family arrived in the United States. She met her future husband, Jack Benny, at a Passover seder at her family home when she was 14; Benny was invited by his friend and her cousin, Zeppo (b. Herbert) Marx while Benny and the Marx Brothers were in town together to perform. Sadie developed a near-instant crush on the funny, somewhat shy man eleven years her senior. But when he inadvertently insulted her by excusing himself for the night in the midst of her violin performance, she got her revenge the next night. She took three girlfriends to the theater where Benny performed, sitting in the front row and making sure not to laugh. Benny said later it drove him nuts that he couldn't get the four girls to laugh at anything.

Courting Jack Benny

Jack Benny and Mary Livingstone, 1960.

Three years later, aged 17, Sadie visited California with her family while Jack Benny was in the same town for a show. Still nursing a small crush on the comedian, Sadie went to the theater to re-introduce herself to him. As he approached her in a hallway, she smiled and said, "Hello, Mr. Benny, I'm..." But he curtly cut her off with a "Hello," and continued on his way down the hall without pausing; she learned much later that when Benny was deep in thought about his work, it was nearly impossible to get his attention otherwise.

They met again a few years later — while she was said to be working as a lingerie salesgirl at a May Department Stores branch store in downtown Los Angeles^[4] — and the couple finally began dating. Invited on a double-date by a friend who had married Sadie's sister, Babe, Benny brought Sadie along to keep him company. This time, the couple clicked: Jack was finally smitten with Sadie and asked her on another date. She turned him down at first — she was seeing another young man — but Benny persisted. He visited her at The May Company almost daily and was reputed to buy so much ladies' hosiery from her he helped her set a sales record; he also called her several times a day when on the road.

At the same time, Benny seemed fearful of a committed relationship and Sadie Marks continued dating other men, even becoming engaged, which panicked the comedian enough to beg her to come to Chicago, where he tried to convince her she was too young to marry. When the argument didn't convince her, Benny confessed he was in love with her and wanted to marry her himself. In a scene that could have been a later Jack Benny Program routine, she needled him about her being too young to marry. "You're not too young to marry me!" he retorted, his way of proposing. Sadie Marks broke her existing engagement and married Jack Benny in 1927. In her biography of her husband, she revealed she didn't tell him she was the little girl he'd once needled until after they'd dated awhile.

Goodbye Sadie, Hello Mary

As part of Benny's vaudeville act; she was still known as Sadie at the time.

Sadie took part in some of Jack's vaudeville performances but never thought of herself as a full-time performer, seeming glad to be done with it when he moved to radio in 1932. Then came the day he called her at home and asked her to come to the studio quickly. An actress hired to play a part on the evening's show didn't show up and, instead of risking a hunt for a substitute, Benny thought his wife could handle the part: a character named "Mary Livingstone" scripted as Benny's biggest fan.

At first, it seemed like a brief role — she played the part on that night's and the following week's show before being written out of the scenario. But NBC received so much fan mail that the character was revived into a regular feature on the Benny show, and the reluctant Sadie Marks became a radio star in her own right. Mary Livingstone underwent a change, too: from fan to tart secretary-foil; the character occasionally went on dates with Benny's character but they were rarely implied to be truly romantically involved otherwise. (The lone known exceptions: a fantasy sequence on both the radio and television versions of the show, as well as when NBC did a musical tribute to Jack, in which Mary admitted to being "Mrs. Benny.")

Mary Benny soon enough displayed her own sharp wit and pinpoint comic timing, often used to puncture Benny's on-air ego, and she became a major part of the show, enough so that, giving in when she was addressed as "Mary Livingstone" often enough when out in public, she ended up changing her name legally to Mary Livingstone. Years later, her husband admitted how strange it felt to call her Sadie even in private.

"Chiss Sweeze"

Livingstone's honest, wisecracking style proved a perfect lancing of Benny's on-air persona as a vain skinflint. (By contrast, Portland Hoffa — the real-life wife of Benny's friend, fellow comedian, and longtime "feuding" rival Fred Allen — played a squeaky friend who usually hied Allen off to "Allen's Alley" after a brief comic exchange.) But she was still prone to occasional flubbed lines on the show, and many became as legendary as the deliberately crafted "illogical logic" of Gracie Allen or the cleverly scripted malapropisms of Jane Ace and (as Molly in The Goldbergs) Gertrude Berg.

Livingstone's "chiss sweeze sandwich" order in a lunch counter sketch was referred to for several years afterwards. Another flubbed line was "How could you possibly hit a car when it was up on the grease rack?" Instead, she asked, "How could you possibly hit a car when it was up on the grass reek?" The following week, Benny devoted much of the show to poking fun at the tongue twister, chastising her for using the made up phrase "grass reek". But Jack got his comeuppance later in the show, when the show's guest, the real-life Beverly Hills police chief, was talking about the strange call the department got the night before: two skunks fighting on someone's lawn. "And let me tell you," he said, "when they were done, did that grass reek!" Mary then took great satisfaction out of making Jack admit to the millions of listeners that "grass reek" did exist ("...Boy did that grease rack!" "That's "grass wreak!"" "Well make up your mind!"). It was also mentioned in a later show when, while Christmas shopping, Mary notices a toy gas station and says that it "even has a grease rack". This was a typical example of Benny and Livingstone, and the show's writers' ability to mine classic comedy out of, apparently, nothing much.

Mary's trademark bit on the radio show (other than haranguing Benny) was to read letters from her mother (who lived in Plainfield, New Jersey), usually beginning with, My darling daughter Mary... and often including comical stories about Mary's (fictional) sister Babe (similar to Sadie's real sister Babe in name only), who was so masculine she played as a linebacker for the Green Bay Packers and worked in steel mills and coal mines; or, their ne'er do well father, who always seemed to be a half-step ahead of the law. Mother Livingstone, naturally enough, detested Jack Benny and was forever advising her daughter to quit his employ.

Stage fright

Never all that comfortable as a performer despite her success, Livingstone's stage fright became so acute by the time the Benny show was moving toward television that she rarely appeared on the radio show in its final season, 1954-'55. When she did appear, the Bennys' adopted daughter, Joan, occasionally acted as a stand-in for her mother (more often, Mary's lines were initially rehearsed to the audience by Jack's script secretary, Jeanette Eyman) while Livingstone's pre-recorded lines were played during live broadcasts. Livingstone made few appearances on the television version (mostly in filmed episodes) and finally retired from show business after her close friend Gracie Allen did the same in 1958.

Personal life

George Burns revealed in his memoir Gracie: A Love Story (1988) that he and his wife/partner Gracie Allen loved Jack Benny, but merely tolerated Mary, whom they disliked. Lucille Ball felt the same way, referring to Mary as a "hard-hearted Hannah".^[5][6]

Her relationship with their adopted daughter, Joan, was strained. In Sunday Nights at Seven (1990), her father's unfinished memoir that she completed with her own recollections, Joan Benny revealed she rarely felt close to her mother, and the two often argued:

"She had so many good qualities — her sense of humor, her generosity, her loyalty to her friends. She had a famous, successful, and adoring husband; she had famous, interesting, and amusing friends; she lived in luxury; she was a celebrity in her own right. In short, she had everything a woman could possibly want. When I think of her it's with sadness because I wish she could have enjoyed it all more."^[7]

Death

After writing a biography of her husband, Mary Livingstone — whose surname is often misspelled without the 'e', as with her star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame for her contribution to radio — died from cardiovascular disease at her home in Holmby Hills, California on June 30, 1983, aged 78, hours after receiving a visit from then-First Lady Nancy Reagan, as daughter Joan noted, where the two women enjoyed a private manicure appointment, and seven days after her 78th birthday. "The doctor said it was a heart attack", Joan wrote, "but I have always felt she just gradually faded out of life."

Mary Livingstone is interred beside her husband in the Hillside Memorial Park Cemetery in Culver City, California.

Hilliard Marks

Mary Livingstone's brother, Hilliard Marks, was a radio and television producer, primarily for his brother-in-law Jack Benny.

References

Notes

1. ^ Joan Benny, Sunday Nights at Seven, Pg 30.
2. ^ Born in 1905 as per Find a Grave
3. ^ Susan Ware and Stacy Braukman (February 2005). Notable American Women: A Biographical Dictionary Completing the Twentieth Century. Harvard University Press. p. 388. ISBN 067401488X. 
4. ^ This story was retold in "How Jack Found Mary". The Jack Benny Program. CBS. 31 October 1954.
5. ^ Brochu, Jim. (1990). "Lucy in the Afternoon: An Intimate Memoir of Lucille Ball", pp. 212-214. New York: William Morrow.
6. ^ Tucker, David C. (2007). "The Women Who Made Television Funny", p. 15. Jefferson, NC: McFarland.
7. ^ Joan Benny, from Sunday Nights at Seven.

External links

Biography portal

• Mary Livingstone at the Internet Movie Database
• Mary Livingstone at Find a Grave

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Name	Livingstone, Mary
Alternative names
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Date of birth	June 23, 1905
Place of birth	Seattle, Washington
Date of death	June 30, 1983
Place of death	Holmby Hills, Los Angeles, California