Tie and tease

Forced Orgasm.

Tie and tease refers to the BDSM sexual activity that involves tying up a partner and bringing him or her to a heightened state of sexual arousal but controlling whether and when to allow them to orgasm, which might or might not be decided in advance.^[1] If the tied partner is eventually allowed to orgasm it is referred to as orgasm control and if orgasm is denied it is erotic sexual denial or tease and denial.

The tied up partner is sexually stimulated to the pre-climax stage but not allowed to orgasm, or maybe being allowed to orgasm at the end of the activity.^[2] Depending on the choices of the people involved, the tied up partner may be allowed an orgasm after a while, or the experience might end in frustration, without any orgasm at all—that is sometimes called "tease and denial". Any form of tying or bondage may be used, but it is classically practised with a spreadeagle tie to a four poster bed. This is often the first area couples explore after experimenting with bondage since it combines pleasure with some form of power play. It may or may not be an entrée to more painful play such as pinching and ice cubes. Interestingly, negotiation in BDSM usually focuses on what will or won't be done and not on the emotion. Tie and tease is inherently a psychological activity as well as a physical one.

Often, the bound person will be gagged so as to increase their sense of helplessness. They may also be blindfolded for the same reason, or not blindfolded so that they can see their teaser being provocative by for example dressing in lingerie or having sex with a third person. There may be an intimate examination.

Safety

Priapism, or prolonged erection, lasting several hours, can be damaging to the penis. Extended tie and tease activities may be affected by this.

See also

• Blue balls

Notes

1. ^ The New Partridge Dictionary of Slang and Unconventional English, by Eric Partridge, Tom Dalzell, Terry Victor, Published by Taylor & Francis, 2006, p 1964.
2. ^ Sexplosion By Ramona Bailey, Published by Xulon Press, 2003, p 249.

References

• This article incorporates text from the article on Tie and tease in Wipipedia, the free-content Fetish and BDSM encyclopedia.