Susan Still (Women's rights activist)

Susan Still (born 1964, New York state) is an American women's rights activist who escaped a decade-long abusive relationship with former husband Ulner Lee Still in 2003.

Life and domestic abuse

Susan Still was born in 1964 in a New York middle-class family. She attended college in Buffalo, New York where she met blues guitarist Ulner Lee Still and fell in love. They married a few years later while Susan supported the family financially by working at a health insurance company. At first, Ulner was controlling but not particularly violent or abusive. According to Susan, he had a will to dominate and the power to brainwash [ [http://hotdogfactory.blogspot.com/ Inside the Hotdog Factory, Tuesday, May 08, 2007, O-ploitation, Blogger] ] . Her husband eventually isolated Susan from talking to her parents or friends. However, due to her husband's proficiency at manipulation and control, and its gradual increase, Susan was slow to realize the high level of danger in which her husband's domineering behaviors placed her. After giving birth to their oldest children, a boy and a girl, Susan had to quit work and stay home to take care of them. As the family's financial situations deteriorated, Ulner became more physically abusive. It came to a head in 1992 when Ulner struck his wife after she forgot an item when grocery shopping.

In 2002, the family's financial situation continued to worsen as they had another child and their careers became less stable. Susan began working again to singlehandedly support the family while Ulner became increasingly abusive. As Susan found a new confidant in her new employer Lynn Jasper, Ulner became more distrustful [ [http://kerryfoxlive.com/wordpress/?p=4318 October 27, 2006, Son Forced to Videotape Father Beating His Mother, Filed under: National — Kerry Fox @ 10:32 pm, ABC News, Kerry Fox Live!] ] . The long-term marriage became shaky and Ulner began to threaten Susan more frequently. Ulner instructed his sons and daughter to call their mother "white slut" (though she is in fact biracial) and on one occasion ordered his son to tape him beating her. He would later play the video tapes to the family during dinner, occasionally pausing, pointing out Susan's flaws, mocking her while justifying his brutal behavior. Employer Jasper soon noticed bruises on Susan's face that she disguised as accidental injuries. Finally in May 2003, Jasper encouraged Susan to escape the household with her two sons after discovering a farewell letter at her office drawer containing words like "If anything should happen to me or if I should turn up missing, it is possible my husband was involved".

Escape and court case

Susan and her two sons sought protection from the police in May 2003 and reported her husband for domestic abuse. Lisa Bloch Rodwin, assistant district attorney for Erie County, N.Y. gathered evidence and prosecuted the case. Susan took custody of her two sons, then 13 and 8. However, her daughter (21 years old at the time) chose to take the side of the father and testify on his behalf.

Aftermath

In December 2004, New York State Supreme Court Justice John F. O'Donnell handed Ulner Still a 36-year prison sentence. The grounds were assault, in the second degree (six counts), assault in the third degree (six counts), and endangering the welfare of a child (two counts), making it the longest sentence given to the crime of domestic violence that didn't result in the death of the victim. [ [http://www.courts.state.ny.us/reporter/3dseries/2006/2006_00852.htm People v Still 2006 NYSlipOp 00852 February 3, 2006, Appellate Division, Fourth Department, Published by New York State Law Reporting Bureau pursuant to Judiciary Law § 431.] ] [ [http://www.gracesmithhouse.org/041015_tbn.html The Buffalo News, Images vivid to open trial in domestic abuse case, Videotape by son, 13, offers dramatic detail, By Sandra Tan, 10/15/2004] ] [ [http://atlanta.daybooknetwork.com/story/2007/04/24/3590whendomesticviolencegoestowork.shtml ‘Man Kills Wife, Self, One Other at Work’ -- Who Wants to Read This Headline About Their Company? When domestic violence follows a woman to work, the costs can be staggering, Daybook, Incorporated] ] . In May 7, 2007 Susan Still appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show in order to bring awareness to domestic violence against women. The show aired home videos recorded by the Stills' 13 year-old son on a 51 minute long beating of Susan by her husband [ [http://www.oprah.com/tows/slide/200705/20070523/slide_20070523_284_101.jhtml Innocent Victims of Abuse, Oprah, The Oprah Winfrey Show, May 8, 2007TM & © 2007 Harpo Productions, Inc.] ] [ [http://www.oprah.com/tows/slide/200705/20070523/slide_20070523_284_102.jhtml Innocent Victims of Abuse 2, Oprah, The Oprah Winfrey Show, May 8, 2007TM & © 2007 Harpo Productions, Inc.] ] [ [http://www2.oprah.com/tows/pastshows/200705/tows_past_20070508.jhtml A Suburban Mother's Nightmare Captured on Tape, Oprah, The Oprah Winfrey Show, May 8, 2007TM & © 2007 Harpo Productions, Inc.] ] [ [http://www2.oprah.com/tows/pastshows/200705/tows_past_20070523.jhtml A Mother's Nightmare Captured on Tape Part 2: Her Children Speak Out, Oprah, The Oprah Winfrey Show, May 8, 2007TM & © 2007 Harpo Productions, Inc.] ] . Susan has gained recognition among groups that campaign against violence against women, served as keynote speaker in Houston for the National College of District Attorneys and shared her story with Diane Sawyer on “20/20” in October [ [http://www2.oprah.com/tows/pastshows/200705/tows_past_20070523.jhtml Susan Still elicits more cries for help, Battered women react to story on ‘Oprah’, By Sandra Tan NEWS STAFF REPORTER Updated: 05/29/07 6:35 AM,© 2007 The Buffalo News] ] .

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