- Secret Santa
Secret Santa is a Western
holidaytradition in which members of a group are randomly assigned other members to whom they anonymously give a gift. Often practiced in workplaces, or amongst large families, participation in it is usually voluntary. It offers a way for many people to give and receive a gift at low cost to those involved.
The ritual is known as "Secret Santa" in the
United States, Canadaand Great Britainbut "Kris Kindle" ( Christkindl) in Irelandand parts of the Commonwealth; both terms are acceptable and used in Australiaor New Zealand. All of these names derive from traditional Christmas gift-bringers: the US version is named after Santa Clauswhile "Kris Kindle" and "Kris Kringle" are corruptions of the original name of the German gift-bringer Christkindl, which means the 'Child Jesus' and also means 'gift' in the German language, (in Britain the traditional gift-bringer is Father Christmas). The term "Secret Santa" can refer to the ritual itself, or any of the people participating. In Brazil, it is called "Amigo Secreto" or "Amigo oculto" (Secret Friend) and "Amigo Invisible" (Invisible Friend) in the Spanish Latin America, and Spain.
Another term used specifically in southeastern Pennsylvania of the U.S. is "Pollyanna".
A typical Secret Santa
There are various traditions and ways in which a "Secret Santa" is run. In some variations, as Christmas approaches, names of participants are placed in a hat, and each person draws a name for whom they are to buy a gift. Along with name submission, each participant may also submit a short wishlist of items from which the gift-giver can choose. There is often a limit to how much can be spent on the present. Presents are then sometimes exchanged anonymously. Many schools and offices do this at Christmas time, often as a cost-saving effort. It usually take place prior to Christmas because the office and school settings require it. Sometimes people leave hints in cards on desks, others create other special ways to make themselves known.
Often, the gift-giving occasion is practiced with all the presents being placed on a table, marked with the name of the receiver but not the giver. Sometimes the gift-giver will personally give the recipient the present, thereby revealing their identity. Some groups may choose to donate the money they saved on presents to charity.
A growing number of web sites are providing a modern twist allowing organizers and participants to manage the draw, wishlists and exchange on line. (See external links for more options.)
Thieving Secret Santa
In this version, participants (players) bring one gift each which is potentially suitable or interesting to any of the other participants. The gifts should be wrapped in such a way as to disguise their nature. Ideally, the provider of each gift should not be disclosed when setting up the game. Players take turns, and can either open a new gift, or steal a previously opened gift. This game is also known as the
white elephant gift exchange, yankee swap or dirty santa.
ecret Santa over several days
In this variation, the gift giving occurs over several days. Typically, on a daily basis some small gift is secretly delivered to each person with an emphasis on creativity to make it fun. Examples include, a homemade card, a poem, candies, a trinket, a snack or a little piece of art. By playing this game over several days, the tension mounts and everyone is curious as to exactly who their personal ‘Secret Santa’ is. On the last day of the activity, the gift usually reveals the identity of the ‘Secret Santa’. This could also be played by agreeing on a certain place then all the Secret Santas hide their gifts and then put small clues with the name of the person who they are Secret Santa to, which lead to where the gift is hidden. Another way to play: let the person leave a note for their Secret Santa. This note could be in any format - a poem, a note, etc - but always implies that the person knows who their Santa is. The only problem with playing this way is that once the Secret Santa is found out, they can't give anymore gifts, which, if played in a group, could bring up problems with fairness and equality.
This variation of Secret Santa follows the same, standard rules as the regular gift exchange, however the gifts provided are supposed to be "stolen" or otherwise illegally procured. In order to legitimize this game, participants will often simply steal office supplies from their workplace, heightening the humour of the game.
Problems with Secret Santa
A Secret Santa event in a mixed-gender workplace can often be marred by the anonymous provision of inappropriate gifts with the potential to cause embarrassment to the recipients. Typical gifts of this nature include many inappropriate objects which can be taken as sexual harassment. For this reason, it may be sensible for a trusted 'referee' to be appointed who has knowledge of the identities of all the givers and their relative recipients.
References in popular culture
*The Secret Santa gift exchange was featured on the Christmas special episode of "
The Office (UK)" airing December 27, 2003.
*It also appeared in the
December 6, 2005episode of " The Office (US)", titled " Christmas Party". It began in the traditional form, but partway through became a " Yankee Swap"
December 2 2005episode of "Monk" featured a murderous version of the gift exchange, in an episode titled "Mr. Monk and the Secret Santa"
October 9 2006episode of " Corner Gas" Lacey gives Brent a bottle of Kirsch as a Secret Santa gift.
*A rigged Secret Santa draw was featured in the
December 4, 2006"Penny Arcade" [http://www.penny-arcade.com/comic/2006/12/04 comic strip] .
*Irish band Bell X1 refers to Kris Kindle in the lyrics to their song "I'll See Your Heart And I'll Raise You Mine".
December 14, 2003, the Secret Santa gift exchange was featured on epidode 'Tis the Fifteenth Seasonof The Simpsons.
Friendsepisode ' The One with Chandler in a Box' involves the friends negotiating who to have for their secret santas.
House MDepisode "It's a Wonderful Lie" involves House setting up a Secret Santa game with him as the only recipient, which his team later find out.
The following sites allow you to organize your secret santa online:
* [http://www.elfster.com Elfster]
* [http://www.secret-gift.com Secret Gift]
* [http://www.secretsanta.com Secret Santa]
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