- Group dating
Origins
Group Dating is most popular in Japan where it is called "compa" or "
gōkon ." It has become popular because many Japanese find it difficult to find a partner. Group dating can also be found in many other countries, however, compa is very ritualized and unique. Generally, a single guy and girl who know each other organize the compa in advance, each agreeing to bring 3 or 4 eligible friends. The venue is usually a restaurant, izakaya, or anywhere people can eat, drink and make a bit of noise. [cite news|url=http://www.japanfortheuninvited.com/articles/compa-parties.html|publisher=Japan for the Uninvited|title=Compa Parties|date= Retrieved onJune 23 ,2006 ]The expression “compa” comes from the English “companions”, and “gōkon” is simply a combination of “goudo” (“group”) with compa. Both terms are commonly used and their meaning is basically the same.
Generally speaking, compa isn’t for finding one night stands (at least not openly - that’s more associated with
nanpa ), but for making friends and possibly forming long-term relationships. However, there is still a stigma attached to attending a “dating party”, and someone going to a compa might tell coworkers or other friends they are going to a regular drinking party.Group Dating has also become a cherished tradition amongst students of the prestigious
Oxbridge universities, where such an event is known as aCrewdate or aFormal swap . These became popular amongst rowers as a way to dispel the boredom and loneliness of 'long mornings on the water and nights in the library', and hence the term allegedly derives from the combination of the word 'Crew' (traditionally a rowing team) and 'Date'.Online Group Dating
According to an Article in
USA today :"Group online dating, its creators and practitioners say, is safer than traditional Internet dating: With friends in tow, there's little fear that a date will spike your drink during a trip to the bathroom. It's more natural, akin to happy-hour mixing. Going out in groups improves your odds, at least in theory. And if the opposing social circle doesn't live up to its virtual profile, well, it's a night out with your gang." [cite news|url=http://www.usatoday.com/tech/news/2006-03-08-group-online-dating_x.htm|publisher=USA Today|title=Invite the gang for a night of online dating|date= Retrieved on
March 9 ,2006 ]According to a [http://www.signonsandiego.com/uniontrib/20080525/news_1c25datesm.html San Diego Union-Tribune article] :
" [The Concept] is part of a growing trend in the lucrative online dating market – harnessing the power of friends. Several sites are tapping into the idea that most real-world relationships begin, like it or not, with the help and influence of friends and family."
According to a [http://www.ignighter.com/Images/Press/TwoRiverTimesArticle.jpgTwo River Times Article] :
"Groups with like interests that meet online might set up to meet socially - at a club, event or restaurant."
According to a [http://mashable.com/2008/08/20/group-dating-sites/ Mashable Article] :
"The trend has become a cultural phenomenon, gaining popularity in the UK and now the US" [cite news|url=http://mashable.com/2008/08/20/group-dating-sites/|publisher=Mashable|title=Group Dating, The New Way to Date|date= Retrieved on
August 25 ,2008 ]References
ee also
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Crewdate
*Gokon
*Culture of Japan
*Online dating service
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