English royal mistress

An English royal mistress is the unofficial title used to refer to the person who held the position of unmarried lover to the king of England either before or after his accession to the throne. Female lovers were, by convention, the most easily acknowledged, and often became influential individuals. However, there appear to have also been male love interests to monarchs, both male and female, who also wielded considerable influence. However, as this was not an official position of any kind, the influence of all Royal lovers was precarious, linked inextricably with their ability to hold the monarch's interest.

Reasons a royal mistress was taken

The primary reason a king would take a mistress seems to be the fact that royal marriages were rarely, if ever, based on love alone. Most often, English monarchs made a dynastic match, first for the production of heirs of a full royal blood and second for the treaties and huge dowry that often accompanied such brides. Factors such as compatibility were rarely considered in the contracting of these royal marriages.

Often, these brides were stringently instilled with a sense of chastity that often developed into sexual frigidity. To a king whose sexual appetites were often nurtured by friends and father-figures from a young age, this was a difficult barrier to surmount. This, added to the fact that often there was no physical attraction between the two royal partners, creates a situation which, to the sensibilities of the time, necessitated the establishment of a royal mistress. Herman, Eleanor. Sex With Kings. New York: HarperCollins Publishers Inc., 2004. ]

Relationship between the mistress and the king

Beyond the physical relationship which a mistress’s relationship with the king was based upon, the royal mistress had one other duty to perform in order to maintain her position. This duty was, simply, to be unfailingly amusing. A mistress had to be witty, charming, and talkative, but had to remember to listen to the king when he wished it. She had to make herself constantly available to the king should he want food, conversation, or sex. The stress of having to be constantly perfect sometimes led to a mistress’s early death.

Relationship between the mistress and the queen

Relationships between a king’s queen and his mistress varied between amiable acceptance and jealous hatred. Some wives were contented and even relieved to be substituted in the marriage bed. These docile wives, like Caroline of Ansbach, the wife of George II, often won their husband’s respect and affection. The opposite –like Eleanor of Aquitaine, wife of Henry II, who is reputed to have murdered Rosamund Clifford, her husband’s much younger mistress — earned their husband’s hate and ridicule as a reward.

Often, English royal mistresses even served as lady-in-waiting to the queen; until modern times, this often led to a surprisingly fond relationship between the two. However, this relationship could often be strained when a mistress gave birth to a royal bastard that the king often loved more than his own legitimate offspring.

A brief overview of English royal mistress

Mistresses during the Plantagenet Era (1066-1485)

Before the 15th century, there is very little surviving record about English royal mistresses; there is the proof of the fruit of these affairs, royal bastards, but very seldom are the mothers of this offspring mentioned.

For example, we know that Richard III, who reigned from 20 June, 1483 to 22 August, 1485, had two children by the same mother. The children were John of Gloucester and Catherine, second wive of William Herbert, 2nd Earl of Pembroke. Their mother has been identified as Katherine Haute but next to nothing is actually known about this woman.Weir, Alison. The Wars of the Roses. New York: Ballantine Books, 1995.]

This neglect in the records of England’s early royal mistresses is partly because the Roman Catholic Church cast a jaded eye on adultery as long as mistresses were kept in the background. Knowledge of the specifics of royal mistresses grows exponentially during the English Renaissance, with the increased prevalence of letter-writing and the English Reformation under Henry VIII.

Interestingly enough, the first monarch about whose mistresses we know a relatively large amount of information about actually lived fairly early. Henry II, who reigned 25 October, 1154 to 6 July, 1189, was notorious for the infidelities against his wife, Eleanor of Aquitaine. In this case, however, we have only the bare bones of knowledge about these mistresses: names, approximate birth and death dates, and vague physical descriptions. Although they are an improvement, they are barely an exception to the general rule of “don’t ask, don’t tell.”

Virtually the only Plantagenet king of whose mistresses we have a relatively detailed account is Edward IV (reigned 3 March, 1461 - 31 October, 1470, 11 April, 1471 - 9 April, 1483). Usually, as in the case of Edward’s brother Richard III, we know that a mistress was kept, but very little else of her; in Edward’s case we have names and a comparatively thorough account of their actions; this is mainly because in his younger years, Edward promised and even went through marriage to get many of his mistresses to sleep with him. In many cases, as in that of Lady Eleanor Talbot, there was insufficient evidence to prove that these marriages had actually taken place; however, Elizabeth Woodville was one woman who had proved that such a marriage had taken place. In this way, she was the first English royal mistress to become the English queen.

Mistresses during the Tudor era (1485-1603)

The first Tudor king, Henry VII (reigned 22 August, 1485 - 21 April, 1509), actually took no mistresses despite having married Elizabeth of York for dynastic reasons. However, this may have been as much because of libidinal deficiency as much as moralityCarlton, Charles. Royal Mistresses. New York: Routledge, 1990.] . Others have suggested that Henry VII was even in love with and faithful to his wifeFriedman, Dennis. Ladies of the Bedchamber: The Role of the Royal Mistress. New York: Peter Owens Publishers, 2005.] . In any case, there is no record or reason to suggest that he had kept mistresses as king. The only illegitimate child attributed to Henry VII was Sir Roland de Velville or Veleville, born in 1474. [ [http://www.tudorplace.com.ar/aboutHenryVII.htm About Henry VII TUDOR (King of England) ] ] Which places his birth twelve years before the marriage of Henry and Elizabeth on 18 January, 1486.

In sharp contrast to Henry VII is his son and successor, Henry VIII (reigned 21 April, 1509 - 28 January, 1547), whose libidinal surfeit is still fabled – and, perhaps, exaggerated — to this day. His first mistress, in 1514, was a Frenchwoman named Jane Popincourt, a tutor in languages to Henry’s sisters Margaret and Mary. Though very little is known of her, her promiscuity was so prominent that even the French king wouldn't allow her back to his court, known for its promiscuity.

Henry VIII’s next mistress was Elizabeth Blount, who was seventeen or eighteen when she reached the height of her power in 1518. He was much less discreet in this affair – at the Christmas revels in 1514, Henry danced with her so much that even docile, accepting Catherine of Aragon was so jealous that she persuaded Henry to exclude her from the Twelfth Night festivities. However, in 1517 the king was reputed to be “in the chains of love with her,” and in the spring of 1519, Elizabeth gave birth to a boy, a child she named Henry Fitzroy –Henry, son of the king. Elizabeth Blount, having fulfilled her main purpose, was married off to Gilbert Tailboys, 1st Baron Tailboys of Kyme, one of his courtiers whose family was said to have a history of insanity, and was remembered fondly by Henry with the occasional New Years gift.

The King’s next mistress was another Englishwoman, Mary Boleyn, who had been living in France. At the French court she was, like Jane Popincourt, known for her promiscuity: the rakish Francis I of France, reputed to have been “clothed in women,” boasted that he, like most of his friends, had slept with Mary Boleyn, describing her as “a great prostitute, infamous above all.” Although she was married to Sir William Carey when her affair with Henry began in the early 1520s, Carey is thought to have been compliant. Both her children by her first marriage, Catherine Carey and Henry Carey, 1st Baron Hunsdon, were reputed to be illegitimates of Henry. Mary was afterwards sent to live in the country with her husband [Lindsey, Karen. Divorced, Beheaded, Survived: A Feminist Reinterpretation of the Wives of Henry VIII. New York: Da Capo, 1996.] .

Henry’s next mistress was Anne Boleyn, sister to Mary Boleyn and the mistress who would become his queen. Although there has been some historical dispute over which sister was the elder, it was most certainly Mary. Making Anne the younger sister of one of Henry’s previous mistresses [Gairdner , James. "Mary and Anne Boleyn". The English Historical Review Jan., 1893: 53-60.] . At the time that Henry first noticed Anne, he was also beginning proceedings for his divorce from barren Catherine of Aragon, and as Anne refused to sleep with him unless she was his wife, it seemed logical that he should make her his wife. She became his mistress in the truest sense of the word 1532 (six years after he had first noticed her), and on 25 January, 1533, she and Henry were married. Henry went on to marry Jane Seymour, Anne of Cleves, Catherine Howard and Catherine Parr. But from the beginning of his third marriage to his death, Henry did not take another mistress that record exists of today. His other reputed illegitimate children, Thomas Stukley, John Perrot and Etheldreda Malte, were all born in the 1520s.

Henry also took mistresses while Anne Boleyn was pregnant, two, in fact, and one was Mary Shelton, although not much is known about this. The other was Jane Seymour, who like Anne became his wife.

Four other monarchs of the Tudor dynasty followed Henry VIII. His son Edward VI succeeded to the throne when he was nine-years old. He died on 6 July, 1553, two months short of his sixteenth birthday. He was arguably too young to have had a mistress and there is no record mentioning one. Edward VI was followed by Lady Jane Grey (reigned 1553), Mary I (reigned 1553 - 1558), and Elizabeth I (reigned 1558 - 1603). There is no suggestion that Jane or Mary took lovers outside of their respective marriages to Lord Guilford Dudley and Philip II of Spain. Elizabeth I's status as a 'Virgin Queen' was an important part of her public image. Although Elizabeth clearly had favourites, there is no clear evidence that any of these was a lover (although they are sometimes portrayed as such in fiction). Hall, Unity . The Private Lives of Britain's Royal Women. New York: Contemporary Books, 1990.] .

Mistresses during the Stuart era (1603-1714)

Elizabeth I of England was succeeded by James VI of Scotland. He rose to the English throne as James I. He was widely suspected of being homosexual, and had a series of intensely emotional relationships with men, both older and younger than himself throughout his life, the last being with Robert Carr and George Villiers. Whether these were consummated physically is a controversial subject among historians, although the consensus is that they were not.

Robert Carr, who was Scottish like the king, caught James’ attention when he fell off a horse and broke his leg during a joust. The king nursed him through his injury and supervised his nurses, doctors, and diet, and even tried to teach Robert some Latin. After he had recovered, Somerset was truly James’ favourite, quickly being made both a knight and then the Viscount Rochester, given a seat on the Privy Council, and created the Earl of Somerset in rapid succession. James did not care when his favourites married; when Robert Carr expressed love for Frances Howard, a woman already married to Robert Devereux, 3rd Earl of Essex, James had the earlier marriage annulled on 25 September, 1613. Allowing Somerset to marry Frances on 26 December, 1613.

However, Robert’s time in the king’s affections was cut short. On 15 September, 1613, ten days prior to the annulement, Thomas Overbury had died while imprisoned in the Tower of London. Overbury was a friend of Robert but fervently against the marriage to Frances. In April, the supporters of the union had tried to remove him by convincing James I to assign his as his ambassador to the court of Michael of Russia. Overbury was by then too involved in the case and declined the royal assignment. James I had instead imprisoned him. Overbury had been poisoned with sulfuric acid in the form of copper vitriol. Edward Coke and Francis Bacon worked together in the trial of the poisoners which begun in 1615. By the time it was over in early 1616, Frances was found guilty of having hired the poisoners and orcestrated the murder. Robert claimed ignorance but was sentenced to death with his wife as her accomplice. James changed the sentences to imprisonment. The couple were eventually released but never regained their positions at court.

George Villiers followed after the deposition of Robert Carr, and his rise in royal favor was so quick that contemporaries described it as a flight rather than a growth. Many assumed that his fall from favour would be just as rapid; in preparation, the ambitious Howard family dangled a boy named William Monson before James. William was second son of William Monson but would gain greater fame as one of the Regicides of Charles I of England.

However, Villiers proved himself to be far more long-lasting, and James’ relationship had a paternal element. James even described George as “my sweet child and wife” while signing himself “your old dad and husband.” James, besotted with George, married his lover to Katherine Manners, the richest heiress in England and the next-in-line for the title and associated property of Baron de Ros. Which she would inherit in 1632. James also showered the Villiers family with titles and money, making them amongst the most powerful in the kingdom.

James I was followed by his son Charles I, who was also extremely attached to Villiers, until the latter was murdered by John Felton on 23 August, 1628. Charles is not known to have had a physical relationship with anybody but his wife, the Henrietta Maria of France (Wilson, 27).

In contrast to his father’s pious fidelity, however is Charles II, possibly the most notorious womanizer of the English kings. Among his list of mistresses are included: Lucy Walter, Barbara Villiers, Louise de Kérouaille, Hortense Mancini, Nell Gwyn, Mary Davis, Winifred Wells, Jane Roberts, Mrs. Knight, Mary Bagot (widow of Charles Berkeley, 1st Earl of Falmouth) and Elizabeth, Countess of Kildare. Among these women are both the noble and the common –Charles is the first monarch whose mistresses from the lower classes are recorded. These women provided him with fourteen acknowledged bastards and no end of scandal.

Barbara Villiers, his longest-standing mistress of ten years, was a woman known for her sexual promiscuity and had affairs with at least five other men during her tenure as mistress (and one of these with Charles’ own bastard fathered by Lucy Walter). Barbara also wielded considerable political power, obtaining for her friends and family places on the Privy Council and undermining peace efforts between the Kingdom of England and the Dutch Republic. Another of his mistresses, Louise de Kérouaille, was a known French spy, and the one who followed her, Hortense Mancini, reportedly the wildest and most beautiful of Charles’ mistresses, was a known lesbian. Hortense was also known to be a lover of Anne Palmer, an illegitimate daughter of Charles II and Barbara Villiers. The most famous of Charles' mistresses, Nell Gwyn, was a stage actress and had been a prostitute before the king became interested.

Charles II, even for all his bastards, was unable to father a legitimate heir with his wife Catherine of Braganza. However, one of his illegitimate sons, James Scott, 1st Duke of Monmouth, launched a bid to succeed him. Monmouth claimed that Charles had actually secretly married his mother, Lucy Walter, whilst in exile on the continent (making Monmouth the legitimate heir to the throne). Monmouth's rebellion failed, at least in part because he could not produce evidence to support his legitimacy, and Lucy is usually considered by historians to be a Royal mistress rather than a secret wife.

Charles was actually succeeded by his younger brother James II, who had at least eleven mistresses. He did not follow the accepted standard of beauty of the time: while his contemporaries sought out heavy-set, voluptuous women on the Baroque model, James was attracted to skinny, boyish young girls in their teens. He was a Catholic, and his brother Charles II joked that his mistresses were so ugly that they must have been provided as penance by his confessors. He may have experienced guilt after his sexual encounters with his mistresses, and when one of them, Anne Hyde, became pregnant with his child in 1660, he married her despite her unattractiveness. His longest-lasting mistress, Arabella Churchill, was described as nothing but skin and bone. He noticed her while out for a ride; she fell from her horse, exposing her legs. She would bear him four illegitimate children. However, she was only one in a list of eleven mistresses, the rest of whom were short-lived affairs that resulted from meetings at court.

Neither Mary II nor Anne had any physical relationships outside of marriage, [Waller, Maureen. Ungrateful Daughters. New York: St. Martin’s Press, 2003. ] although Anne had intense emotional attachments to first Sarah Churchill, Duchess of Marlborough and then her cousin Abigail Masham, Baroness Masham, both of whom became politically important. On the other hand William III, husband and co-ruler of Mary II had several mistresses, the better known one being Elizabeth Villiers.

Mistresses during the Hanoverian era (1714-1901)

George I, the English king who could only speak German, brought with him to the Kingdom of Great Britain his two already long-established mistresses: Ehrengard Melusine von der Schulenburg, who was so tall and scrawny that she was nicknamed “the maypole,” and Sophia von Kielmansegg, so squat and fat that she was called “the elephant.” Much mocked by the English, George I nevertheless kept both mistresses until his death. However Sophia was actually an illegitimate half-sister of his. They were both children of Ernest Augustus, Elector of Hanover. She was known to compete for influence with Melusine and assumed to be a mistress by the British courtiers. Whether she actually was is not entirely clear.

George II had only one principal mistress, Henrietta Howard, who maintained this station for well over a decade. It is probable that George II considered having a mistress necessary, for he was very much in love with his wife Caroline of Brandenburg-Ansbach. He made a point of visiting Henrietta for several hours each night, locking the door, but most agreed that they spent their time playing cards. However, when she became deaf in her early forties, he quickly became bored with her, and they parted amiably. George II did not take another mistress after his wife’s death of umbilical rupture on 20 November, 1737.

George III followed the more chaste examples of his father Frederick, Prince of Wales and grandfather George II. He took no serious mistress during his reign. This comparative virtue was favored by the increasingly chaste moral standards of the time. However he was later rumored to have secretly married Hannah Lightfoot prior to his public wedding to Charlotte of Mecklenburg-Strelitz.

His son George IV, first Prince Regent during George III’s periods of insanity and king following his death, carried on an affair of twenty years with a widow, Maria Fitzherbert, who he lived with and considered his true wife. He was reported to have even married her, even though he became increasingly unfaithful and accepted the paternity of several bastard children throughout this time period. Afterwards, he rejected any possible marriage he might have made with Mrs. Fitzherbert. His other notable mistress included Mary Robinson, Frances Twysden, Grace Elliott, Isabella Seymour-Conway, Marchioness of Hertford and Elizabeth Conyngham, Marchioness Conyngham.

George IV and his legitimate wife Caroline of Brunswick were never fond of their arranged marriage and lived separately from 1796 to her death on 7 August, 1821. Their only daughter Princess Charlotte Augusta of Wales was born very early in the marriage. That both George and Caroline took other lovers was not therefore unexpected.

George survived his only legitimate daughter. He was succeeded by his younger brother William IV on 26 June, 1830. William had co-habited with his mistress Dorothy Jordan from the late 1780s to 1811. He only married his wife Adelaide of Saxe-Meiningen on 11 July, 1818. They were reputed to have a happy marriage to his death on 20 June, 1837. There seems to be no record of a mistress during his reign.

Queen Victoria married her husband Albert whilst very young, and enjoyed a devoted marriage until his death in 1861. In grief-stricken widowhood she largely closed herself away from the world. However, in the latter part of her reign, there was contemporary gossip around her manservant and friend John Brown. Some more far-fetched accounts even suggested a secret marriage. In reality, there is no evidence that the relationship was anything other than platonic.

Mistresses during the Saxe-Coburg-Gotha era (1901-1917)

However, Victoria's son Edward VII, who ascended on 22 January, 1901, was notorious for his many infidelities—however, each of these affairs was carried out in a kind and discreet manner, which did much to endear him to his subjects. His notable mistresses included a French actress, Hortense Schneider, Guila Barucci, who boasted that she was the “greatest whore in the world,” Susan Pelham-Clinton, who had already eloped twice, Lillie Langtry, an actress who had also been courted by Edward’s brother and an Austrian prince, Daisy Greville, Countess of Warwick, and Alice Keppel, who of all his mistresses had the most political power and sat at his deathbed in 1910. He fathered surprisingly few royal bastards considering their number and the fecundity he enjoyed with his wife Alexandra of Denmark.

Mistresses during the Windsor era (1917-present)

Of the currently reigning House of Windsor, only Edward VIII and Charles, Prince of Wales have carried on public affairs. Edward VIII's affair with the American divorcee Wallis Simpson by far outshines his earlier peccadilloes. Although he had already met her in San Diego, California in 1920, he was charmed by her openness, which he associated with Americans, when he met her again in Leicester in 1931. By 1934, they were sleeping together. However, by 1936, he had ascended the throne and she had divorced her husband Ernest; nevertheless, Edward was determined to make Wallis his wife. However, the teachings of the contemporary Church of England, of which Edward was Supreme Governor, was that divorcees could not re-marry within the lifetime of former spouses. Commonwealth Prime Ministers were not unanimous on whether the marriage would be unconstitutional, but there was considerable opposition, led by the British Government. Public sympathy was similarly divided, and the issue threatened to become a constitutional crisis. On 11 December, 1936, Edward abdicated, and left the United Kingdom so that he could marry his mistress and live in exile.

Similarly, there is the current Prince of Wales, Charles. The great love of his life was not his first wife Diana, Princess of Wales, but Camilla Parker Bowles (a great-granddaughter of Edward VII's mistress Alice Keppel). His ongoing affair with her, which lasted from 1970 and through his marriage, was exploited during his divorce from his vastly popular first wife; this created a generally bad public image for Charles. After his divorce and Diana’s later death, he and Camilla could still not marry because of the strength of public opposition. However, public anger subsided, and they received permission from the Queen in 2005, and were subsequently married in a civil ceremony on April 10, 2005.

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