Polite fiction

"Polite fiction" refers to a social scenario in which all participants are aware of a truth, but pretend to believe in some alternate version of events to avoid conflict or embarrassment. It is closely related to euphemism, in which a word or phrase that might be impolite, disagreeable, or offensive is replaced by another word or phrase that both speaker and listener understand to have the same meaning.

An example would be of a man who goes out drinking, but tells his family that he is merely going for an evening walk to enjoy the night air. Even though everyone knows he will only be walking as far as the bar and will come home drunk, they all pretend that he really is going out for a walk, and pretend not to notice his drunkenness when he returns.

Another common example is where everybody knows a couple have had an argument and one of them absents him/herself from a subsequent social gathering, the other claiming he or she is "ill".

Just as euphemism can slip into doublespeak, polite fictions can slip into denial. This is especially the case when the fiction is actually meant to fool some observers, such as outsiders or children judged too young to be told the truth. The truth then becomes "the elephant in the room"; no matter how obvious it is, the people most affected pretend to others and to themselves that it isn't so. Again, this can be used to humorous effect in comedy, where a character will seem bent on working overtime to make it impossible to maintain the polite fiction.

The word "mokita" in the Papua New Guinean language Kivila describes much the same concept.

External links

* [http://www.culture-at-work.com/politefiction.html Explanations of "polite fictions" in U.S. culture for Japanese visitors]