Gestalt prayer

The "Gestalt prayer" is a 56-word statement by psychotherapist Fritz Perls that is taken as a classic expression of Gestalt therapy as way of life model of which Dr. Perls was a founder.

The key idea of the statement is the focus on living in response to one's own needs, without projecting onto or taking introjects from others. It also expresses the idea that it is by fulfilling their own needs that people can help others do the same and create space for genuine contact; that is, when they "find each other, it's beautiful".

Text of "prayer"

quote|I do my thing and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, And you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it's beautiful. If not, it can't be helped. (Fritz Perls, 1969)

Impact and legacy

The prayer is well known in gestalt and psychotherapy circles, where it is generally taken as a summarising statement of the philosophy of personal independence central to gestalt therapy. This philosophy still attracts critics, generally arguing that interpersonal relationships require real, hard work to maintain. Supporters counter that an attitude of independence does not refute this, but rather encourages people to realise that relationships need not be founded on obligation or expectation.The prayer remains popular in general culture, although the last line is sometimes omitted [ [http://www.davidpbrown.co.uk/poetry/frederick-perls.html Example of an individual omitting the last line] ] . In academic discussion, it sometimes acts as a starting point for debate around issues of autonomy and interdependence [cite journal |url=http://eric.ed.gov:80/ERICWebPortal/custom/portlets/recordDetails/detailmini.jsp?_nfpb=true&_&ERICExtSearch_SearchValue_0=EJ238287&ERICExtSearch_SearchType_0=eric_accno&accno=EJ238287 |title=Reflections on Fritz Perls's Gestalt Prayer. |accessdate=2007-08-31 |format= |work= |author=Dolliver, Robert H. |journal=Personnel and Guidance Journal |month=January |year=1981 |volume=59 |issue=5 |pages=311–13] [cite journal |author=Crocker, S. F. |title=Truth and foolishness in the `gestalt prayer'. |journal=The Gestalt Journal |year=1983 |volume=6 |issue=1 |pages=4–16] [cite journal |author=Cadwallader, Eva H. |title=Values in Fritz Perls's Gestalt Therapy: On the Dangers of Half-Truths. |journal=Counseling and Values |volume=28 |issue=4 |pages=192–201 |month=July |year=1984 |url=http://eric.ed.gov:80/ERICWebPortal/custom/portlets/recordDetails/detailmini.jsp?_nfpb=true&_&ERICExtSearch_SearchValue_0=EJ308084&ERICExtSearch_SearchType_0=eric_accno&accno=EJ308084 ] .

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