Taarof

T'aarof (Persian: تعارف ) is a Persian form of civility emphasizing both self-deference and social rank. The term encompasses a range of social behaviours, from a man displaying etiquette by opening the door for a woman, to a group of colleagues standing on ceremony in front of a door that can permit the entry of only one at time, earnestly "imploring" the most senior to break the deadlock.

The prevalence of t'aarof often gives rise to different styles of negotiation than one would see in a European or North American culture. For example, a worker negotiating a salary might begin with a eulogy of the employer, followed by a lengthy bargaining session consisting entirely of indirect, polite language -- both parties are expected to understand the "implied" topic of discussion. It is quite common for an Iranian worker (even one employed in an Iranian neighborhood within Europe) to work unpaid for a week or two before the issue of wages is finally broached.Fact|date=February 2007 Likewise, a shopkeeper may initially refuse to quote a price for an item, "suggesting" that it is worthless ("gh'aabel nadaareh"). T'aarof obliges the customer to insist on paying, possibly several times, before a shopkeeper finally quotes a price and real negotiation can begin.

T'aarof also governs the rules of "hospitality": a host is obliged to offer anything a guest might want, and a guest is equally obliged to refuse it. This ritual may repeat itself several times before the host and guest finally determine whether the host's offer and the guest's refusal are real or simply polite. It is possible to ask someone not to t'aarof ("t'aarof nakonid"), but that raises new difficulties, since the request itself might be a devious type of t'aarof.

Political theory

Some political theorists have argued that during the period of serfdom, at princely courts, t'aarof regulated diplomatic discourse. It involved a sharp curbing of one's comportment, speech, and action to make people, honour, and prestige calculable as instruments for political advancement.

According to D. M. Rejali, for the feudal elite the ornamentation of speech symbolises prestige. With the advent of capitalism and its scientific paradigm, communication became more precise and the formality of t'aarof a hindrance in the pursuit for rapid capital accumulation. [D M Rejali, "Torture & Modernity: Self, Society, and the State in Modern Iran". An exception would be the Japanese Tea Ceremony, which seems to have adapted well to modern requirements (see MT issue no 1).]

Social customs

It is considered rude to refuse what is served, visitors should accept the items offered, even if they do not intend to consume them.

Notes

References

* [http://www.persianmirror.com/culture/distinct/distinct.cfm#art The Art of Taarof]
* D M Rejali, "Torture & Modernity"
* Umberto Eco, "Political Language: The Use and Abuse of Rhetoric"

External links

* [http://select.nytimes.com/gst/abstract.html?res=F50E10FC355B0C758CDDA10894DE404482]
* [http://ngm.nationalgeographic.com/2008/08/iran-archaeology/del-giudice-text/2]